Gen Z often perceives charisma, or “rizz,” as a magical quality that only a select few possess. But what if everyone could learn to be more charismatic?
Contrary to popular belief, charisma isn’t about grand performances. Charles Duhigg, author of a book on “super communicators,” suggests it’s about eliciting positive states in others. The key is to ask deeper questions, truly listen, and match the other person’s communication style.
Many successful executives admit charisma didn’t come naturally. Dave MacLennan, former CEO of Cargill, deliberately cultivated an approachable persona. He embraced a casual nickname, remembered personal details about colleagues, and sent handwritten notes of appreciation.
These small gestures can have a big impact. A brief email acknowledging a life event or a handwritten note of congratulations can make someone feel valued and appreciated.
Carla Harris, a Morgan Stanley executive, emphasizes the importance of being consistently friendly to everyone, not just those perceived as important. This approach fosters a positive work environment and builds a reputation for genuine warmth.
For those who struggle with social interactions, these insights offer hope. Through practice and intention, we can develop charisma as a skill, not as an innate gift.
To become more charismatic:
- Ask meaningful questions and listen attentively.
- Remember and acknowledge personal details.
- Send brief, personalized messages of appreciation.
- Be consistently friendly to everyone.
- Match others’ communication styles.
By focusing on making others feel valued and engaging in meaningful conversations, we can all become more charismatic. It’s not about overnight transformation but about consistent, genuine interest in others. Start small. your journey to becoming a more charismatic and effective leader begins with these simple steps.
[Summarized from an article by RACHEL FEINTZEIG in The Wall Street Journal]